Since Black Friday marks the first day of Christmas I thought I'd share what I would really like this year. Some of them are pretty selfish, I know. My list is as follows:
1. To be free of debt
2. To be appreciated
3. To be surrounded by fewer idiots
4. To be loved for who I really am
5. For all my friends to get along together
6. Some kind of purpose for life
7. A little confidence
8. The ability to focus
9. For my parents to accept me
10. To live in a world with less conflict
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I see nothing selfish on your list. :-*
ReplyDeleteAnd all I want for Giftmas is you. <3
ReplyDeleteAll I want for Christmas is my two front teeth. :-*
ReplyDeleteI love you for who you are! also I appreciate you because your amazing and I dont show it all the time but I really do<3
ReplyDeleteLol, at least you kept with the Black Friday theme and made the first thing on the list something monetarily oriented. ^_^
ReplyDeleteAs for the others... well. I haven't spoken to you in quite a while, but I can still offer some random advice. ^_^
#1 I have no advice for. As for #'s 2,3,5,6,7, and 8... well, they all kind of depend on #4, I think.
I know, that sounds kind of stupid, but let me ask you: why is anyone loving you for being something that you're not? The answer is rather simple: because you're not being yourself around those people.
Rich, I know that you don't like conflict (hence #10, right?), but this is the thing: while you are busy worrying about avoiding conflict with others, you're generating internal conflict. And that, while internal, is still conflict, no?
If you start just being yourself, regardless of whether or not other people will like it, you will attain #4 because people will KNOW who you really are, and those that are willing to love you for it (like Jason) will stay, and those who AREN'T will leave.
And once you accept yourself, and realize that others accept you as well, you'll have the confidence to face the conflict, and that will allow you to embrace the chaos that is life and you'll find your purpose which will allow you to focus, and then you'll be better able to cope with the things that you don't like.
It's not as easy as I make it sound (believe me, I know). But you CAN do things to try and help. For instance: one day, when someone asks you something that you would normally answer with a half truth or a lie, tell them what you TRULY think at that moment, whether they'll want to hear it or not.
It doesn't have to be anything major: as an example, say someone suggests a restaurant that you don't MIND, but you have one that you'd MUCH rather go to. Instead of just going along with it and then trying to convince yourself that they had the better idea anyway, just say "No, I'd rather go [here]", and then stick with your feeling.
You might be surprised at what it can do. ^_^
I hope that you can gain happiness in your life Rich. It's not something easy to attain OR easy to accept... but someday, you might be able to.
I really like the comment by Matthias. I think #4 and #7 create their own little catch 22; the more confident you become, the more you will allow people to know the real you, thereby letting you become even more confident.
ReplyDeleteAs you know, I am big on being debt free. The Simple Dollar has a plan to fix your finances in 31 days. http://www.thesimpledollar.com/category/31-days-to-fix-your-finances/
Connie
I can help with some, maybe not number 1 and definitely not number 3. I thought you had deleted your blog because every time (span of 4 days or so) it was gone, then I realized I was typing slackgeek.com instead of slackgeek.blogspot.com as it turns out, those are not the same, I am an idiot I know.
ReplyDeleteI don't talk to people who I don't like/think are fake/etc. and I do talk to you (may it be only on the internet because I'm lame like that) proving that I accept you. Whether it be walking me home from school to eating my mom's food, I enjoy your presence.